Potty Training

A couple of weeks ago, I finally took the leap, gritted my teeth and potty trained my little boy. The week was encompassed with chasing my boy around the house and if I saw one squat begin to happen, picking him up and running him to the toilet! I seriously do not think I have ever said poop so many times in my life. To be honest, there are parts of me that cringed when I thought of the moment I would have to start potty training and in fact, I put it off as long as I could.

BUT. Here we are, we did it! And I have to say, I am pretty proud of my little boy and myself. It took an extreme amount of patience, and the capacity to be fully present for my boy.

I found that in the midst of the poop and pee conversations, the Lord taught me something big here.

Presence. Patience. Willingness to Change.

Presence. I will only speak for myself here, but presence can be a struggle for me many days. I tend to be dreaming, visioning, thinking of what I am going to cook, my to do list or maybe even answering a few emails on my phone, but this past week I spent an extra amount of time being intentional for my boy. I pushed the busy thoughts away, turned my phone off and colored for hours. I played games with cotton balls and pretended to be a dinosaur or a ninja. I was 100% mom and my boy was 100% happy.

Patience. If and when you have to potty train a kid, then you will understand this completely. You learn a new level of patience when having to sing songs or read books while your boy sits on the toilet scared to go poop. There were many deep breath moments during this week and a big growth in patience and understanding.

Willingness to Change. This I learned from my boy. Think about it. He was learning something brand new and he was a rockstar! At first, he was a bit apprehensive, but was comforted with me by his side and found faith in everything I said to him. This reminded me exactly of my relationship with Christ. My willingness to change is a direct reflection on faith and trust in the Lord. It displays my intimate relationship and is an eye opener to me if I have been close or distant with God. The closer I am to my Father, the more willing I am to jump immediately after he says it. If there is hesitation, then I need to check my priorities.

Who knew that potty training could teach so many powerful lessons!

In the end, my boy is wearing big boy undies, I am changing less diapers and I am daily learning to be present, patient, and willing to change.

Yours truly,
Happy mama who made it through potty training week

Surprising Disappointment

As I started this week it was full of optimism, the possibilities in my head were endless and all I thought was 100 people, we got this. In return for $100, these 100 people have a chance to win a Kenya trip and experience our culture and the place I call home, plus extra fun excursions like a safari and snorkeling. I thought, ‘who wouldn’t want that?’

As of today, we have had 10 people enter the giveaway and although I am extremely thankful for these beautiful people, I am also sitting here in disbelief and greatly disappointed. First, I am disappointed in myself for, I guess, being naïve and thinking it would be easy. I am also greatly disappointed in people, in general.

This giveaway is NOT about the trip (that is a cool incentive), but this giveaway is being a part of something bigger than yourself and directly impacting a community of generations to come. This week was meant to shine a light on all that Imani Collective does in Kenya and the beautiful journey our artisans are on. Every day we have been sharing about our programs, we have been sharing testimonies, we have been saying, ‘hey! Look at what your donation goes to.’, but it seems that this is not enough.


I speak from my heart when I say I am disappointed in myself and others. We currently live in a society that loves to advocate about causes and share about what is happening around the world when it is convenient for them to do so. We also live in a society that defines change as advocacy ONLY. Talking about the problem is the first step to allow awareness to be formed, but we need people to be in the next step, directly involved, so that the problem can actually change. I find that people use their media platforms to be “involved” at an arms length away without being truly ‘in it’.

We also seem to not be able to handle extra material and it puts us at a halt to share because we can not fit it into our social media schedules or it does not curate well with our feeds. We also do not want to share because we don’t want to “look needy” and be asking for donations as it might confuse our following. AND instead of directly answering emails or messages, we choose to ignore the ask altogether. We tend to forget there is a human, a heart, a soul behind that ask…

Hello World! We need to start communicating with one another, we need to start standing up for each other, no matter if it is the right timing or not. We need to be real again and stop pretending we have it all together, when we are all one in the same.

Today, I AM SO IN AWE of people, of stigmas, of our society, of selfishness.
And again, disappointed.

BUT I AM ALSO GRATEFUL.

I am grateful to everyone who I reached out to and they immediately shared or followed up with me when they had not received the right information. I thank you for sharing with your networks and also being directly involved with the movement of 40for40.

My friend Nicole is doing something amazing! At a time in her life when she felt as if there was nothing left of her, she decided to be used in a mighty way. She chose 8 organizations to give back to and set a goal to raise $40,000 for her 40th birthday.

What are you doing?
Let us all be better together today.

Learn more about 40for40
Listen to Nicole’s interview: Ep. 14 on MOXIE.
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