The Beauty of Three

It has now been three months since I had my third baby. I have officially joined the mama of three club and now that I have crossed over, all I can say is wow. Having three babies is a whole new ballgame especially three babies that are so close to one another. Jadon is 4, Sophie is 2 and sweet Selah is 3 months.

This blog post has no official direction or three tips to get through the day, but what it does have is empathy. For all of you mothers and fathers out there with any children, I feel you. I see you. I hear you and I want to remind you that you were made for this.

When the days seem hard, know you are not alone and as I have said many times on this platform and to my closest friends, remember that you are enough. Also, remember you are not alone. This third baby has been a joy, but I will not sugarcoat it and tell you it has been easy because it has not. After Selah, postpartum hit me a bit harder than I expected. I never went through these emotions with my first two, but I immediately understood what was happening to me. It was if I was having an out of body experience. I would look down at me and question who she was. She was so sad, overwhelmed and lost… why was she feeling that way?

I still have those days. They are fewer than they once were, but they come and go.

I plan to post about postpartum another day and how I am handling the emotions and anxiety, but what I can tell you is diet and hydration have been greatly linked to my postpartum.

With that being said, being a mother of three is eventful, stressful, full of laughter, messes, overwhelming moments and beautiful ones all at the same time. There are highs and lows and in-betweens and at the end of the day (even on the bad days), I would not trade these moments for anything.

I am blessed to be a mother, messy and all.
I also am honored to be your friend, so again, know, you are not alone.
I am here for you if you ever need a shoulder to lean on.

Sending virtual hugs,
Messy mother of three

Meet your Newest Craft Guru + 3 Tips of Encouragement

You can now call me the master of crafts and circle time! This has been a crazy time with changing up schedules and losing childcare options. I have now stepped into full time teacher, entertainer, craft guru, while still managing the normal workflow. I know that I am not alone in this as I have been getting calls, texts and seeing many posts all over social media with the same “new schedule”.

Before I move on, I would like you to admire my craft wall my kids and I have created.

OK, thank you for that moment! Now I will give myself a pat on the back, continue to take deep breaths every other hour and navigate another week of creativity. (Thank goodness for google and good friends. What did mothers do before the internet??)

With all that said, I wanted to show up today to continue to encourage all of you, both mothers and fathers, who are navigating home and work life balance during this uncertain time. First, know you are not alone and know that there is no such thing as perfect parents. So, if you are seeing all the well curated posts with pictures displaying the perfect home-school room, well behaved kids and beautiful well thought out activities – PLEASE do not compare yourself to those pictures. I guarantee you on the other side of that perfect picture is a mama getting impatient with her kiddos not posing exactly how she wants, or better yet, a pile of clutter sitting behind her that accumulated 5 seconds before the picture so she could have the room look beautifully organized.

OR maybe not, but I am going to go with yes – the picture is not displaying the whole story, so stop comparing and know your children love you no matter if you make a noodle necklace, draw stick figures on a paper or run in circles all day. THEY STILL LOVE YOU.

We are all perfectly imperfect, so embrace that and know you are doing great!

Now, before I waddle (34 weeks pregnant here) to my kiddos, I have 3 tips to leave you with today in the midst of this pandemic.

1. See the good
We can choose to be inundated by the bad and negative especially in regard to everything going on around us, but strive to see the silver lining and see the good of today. You have an intentional choice to make. You can find the negative and heartache of the world and continue to complain about the new routines or see the good in the midst of it all. Find gratitude and learn to welcome it into your heart.

2. Give yourself Grace
This is a time that is not our normal and we have to start to give ourselves a lot of grace in every little moment. Allow yourself to feel your emotions and not to just push them away. I have found that many of my friends are on a roller coaster with their emotions. One moment they are feeling great and in an instant, they feel overwhelmed with what is actually happening in the world. Let your emotions go, and know again, you are not in this alone. Trust me on this one.

3. Love Deeply
This is a time where we can show up as mother, wife (father, husband), friend, and neighbor. Although we have to be at a distant and we are all navigating this new, temporary way of living – let us still show up for one another.
We are in this together.

From one mama to another – taking it one day at a time,