Becoming a mother is something most of us desire to be one day and then it suddenly happens. Just like that. We endure the months or years of “trying” for that little one, then we go through the 9 months of carrying our bundle of joy and boom! We are knee deep in motherhood.
Becoming a mother is one of the greatest things that has ever happened to me but also one of the hardest. You learn about strengths you never knew you had and all of a sudden there are fears you never knew existed. Before being a mother, I worried about solely my needs and what I needed to daily accomplish. When I entered motherhood, I relinquished that position of being center of my own world to Jadon. His needs suddenly were more important than mine and to be honest, many days that was difficult for me.
All of us mamas tend to talk about the positive and the happy of what motherhood brings, but ignore the hard times, the difficult, the tired and impatient moments. I believe these are the moments that bring us mamas together. These moments display we are all human and although our little ones think we are super moms, we know in these times, we feel less than inadequate.
– So, how do I get through the tough days of motherhood? –
– What continues to motivate me to be a mom even when it is hard? –
I can give you my cheeky answer and say thinking of my boys smile gets me through the hard days, which I am not going to lie, his smile does make my heart flutter, but it is not the ultimate solution. In reality, it takes time to build up the endurance for these strenuous days and there is more than one answer of how to go about these moments. Everyone has different methods to help them see a glimpse of the brighter side and today, I am here to share with you mine.
Jadon is fun, adventurous, and active. I love every moment of his curiosity but it also brings destruction to its finest. After a long day of blissful chaos and continuous “no’s”, it can be a pretty exhausting day.
My ‘GO TO’ methods:
- Deep breaths. Sounds crazy, but yes three simple breaths help me tremendously. I close my eyes and breathe in and out. I do not need a mat, a quiet space or a specific room for this. I just stand where I am at and do my thing. This helps me refocus, gain my composure and restore my patience with my little boy.
- Focus on YOU. After a long, hard day, I work on myself. Most of us just want to throw in the towel, cry a little, and have a pity party. But these are the times you need to do something for yourself especially after a day like this. Workout, read, cook your favorite meal, whatever it is, focus on you. Repay yourself for getting through the day and putting your little one first even in the midst of chaos.
- Scripture. The beauty of truth is that it is restorative. I love resting in the Word and spending some quality time with my Father. After I became a mama my quiet times became more sporadic, so using moments during nap time or after Jadon is put to bed to spend with the Lord is essential to my weary soul.
- Plan ahead + Be all there. Many times the root of my impatience comes from me trying to do too much in the moment. I have to remind myself to schedule my day accordingly, so I can close my computer, put away my phone and just waste time with Jadon. Plan ahead and schedule in trampoline time with your littles, it will save you the headache later.
- Prayer. Even on the good days, prayer sustains me. Praying through those hard moments while letting go and giving it to God changes my perspective and reminds me that I am not in this alone.
Know there will continue to be hard days, but our job as mothers is to take care of the possible and trust God with the impossible.
We are in this t o g e t h e r.